Wednesday, May 04, 2011

On bullying

I was lazing around today, surfing the web and checking out the news when I came across a piece on the Phoebe Prince story. For those who don't know, she was a 15 year old girl who committed suicide after being intensely bullied by six of her peers at school. This brought up a huge wave of emotion in me. I was bullied throughout all of my school years, most intensely in grade school and junior high. I had the unfortunate circumstance of having a birthmark on my nose. I've since had it removed as an adult but it was the source of lots of grief. There were many days when I felt cursed. The name calling, people going out of their way to chase you down and taunt you. It was almost too much. I hated school. Dreaded it. So, when I hear of instances of bullying, I have no sympathy for those who are the aggressors. What kind of horrible person is so vile and hateful? Who on earth raised them? Bullying is not very different from stalking, which by the way, is illegal. I'm glad that many states have laws on the books that prevent bullying. However, there are no shortage of tales of schools who are reluctant to do anything real to prevent bullying. Schools can host seminar after seminar but until they get really tough, it will do no good. I had teachers witness instances of bullying and not step in. My dear friends' daughter was bullied and school officials simply shrugged it off. Here's the bottom line, if your child is a menacing little heathen, they should be expelled. It should be up to you, the parent, to either pay the fee for a private school or homeschool. No one should be subject to the little monster you've produced. If that sounds harsh, well, so be it. I'm sick of perpetrators having more rights than victims. No adult would tolerate such treatment in a work or personal environment without demanding action be taken to prevent it. If you harass someone at work, you're fired. If you harass someone in your neighborhood, the police will be knocking at your door. Why should our schools be any different? Our children deserve to be treated with the same basic dignity that we expect. So, to Prince's tormentors, I have to say, you should be horribly ashamed Sadly, you likely are not because the same wretched parts of your souls that allowed you to bully likely prevent you from feeling remorse. Rest assured that the higher power in the universe will be wanting answers for your behavior when you stand in front of him.

5 comments:

mrspao said...

I was bullied at school too for being half-Chinese. It was awful and I agree bullies should be expelled rather than ignored.

KryAnn said...

love your View on this. Bullies should have to go to Bully Boot Camp then take sensitivity Training (work place bullies are sent there why cant a child)

Eric said...

I was fat in high school. I liked one girl and got harassed for liking her a little bit too much. I have even been shot because of it as a warning. I hate people that think they are so cool. Well sooner or later it has gotta catch back up with someone sometime.

Shawn Innes said...

I went through a lot of things in school. I wasn't really bullied because people thought I was "big and scary". I was poor, so I caught some flack for that. But a lot of my friends went through hell. I became a beacon for a lot of the "freaks". Those people are still all my really good friends and I wouldn't have it any other way. I now have 2 kids of my own and dread if something where to happen. I don't know what has changed but I find a lot of the kids in this generation are meaner and less caring then when I was in school. The disrespect is unreal. I don't know if it's the internet that's messed kids up, or the amount of work people have to put in to get by, leaving kids to their own devices. Who knows. But I'm glad there are people out there that feel the same way I do. Someone has to answer for the actions of the children. Weed out the bad ones!

2 el esya said...

I was bullied at school too for being half-Chinese. It was awful and I agree bullies should be expelled rather than ignored.